Whatever You Want Honey

I am going to be writing in generalizations, so be aware that what I am saying does not apply to everyone.

Ladies, there is so much focus on what men have to do to please, or at least “get along” with women that men get lost in a sea of estrogen. I am all for women’s lib. In fact, I believe that women can provide value in all areas of life and not just the domestic areas as stoic old fogies would have you think.

But let us consider the turn of events over the last thirty years. Women were considered 2nd class citizens, then liberation happened. Women gained rights and wanted to be treated equally. Men started treating women equally. As women became independent, they cared more for their careers and less for their families. Men resented the influx of women in business and showed less chivalry. Women gained power and authority. Men turned to pornography and prostitution as a way to feel more in control. Women resented it.

Over the last thirty years we have seen the tides change (most change is good). I believe that women ought to be treated equally, in most areas of life.

However, I do not believe that all women WANT to be treated equally.

Let me explain.

A woman still wants a man to support her. She still wants to have him open her car door (or any door for that matter). She still wants to feel secure in her man’s arms. She still wants to be taken care of. She still wants him to pay (even if they share the same bank account). She still wants to be treated like a woman.

So where does that leave men in this picture? Confused, that’s where! Thirty years ago, men still may not have had a clue, but at least there were boundaries. Now, there are no boundaries and we are still expected to understand what women want. How can that be?

So, ladies, here is my advice to you. If you want your man to “get you” you need to be willing to speak to him at his level of understanding.

At our core, men want a few basic things:

1. To be Respected (our feelings can get hurt when you disregard us as a piece of furniture)
2. To be Loved (emotionally, because we are emotional inside)
3. To be Made Love To (like you you once did, ya know… before kids)
4. To be Fed (we rarely cook, except over a pit)
5. To be Hugged (we like Mushy, we just hide it well)
6. To be Praised (feed the ego, just do not overfeed)
7. To be Heard (we are often dismissed in the chaos)
8. To be Given a List (we are methodical and enjoy crossing things off)
9. To be the Guy with the Best Looking Woman on His Arm (keep yourself looking good and we will too)
10. To be Your One and Only (we will not go or look elsewhere if the above are taken seriously)

Ladies, we do not care if you run the world, as long as you let us run it with you. After all, we are two halves that make the whole, not two wholes that make a half.

- D